How to handle toddler tantrums when told no? So in other words, what do you do with a tantrum? You completely ignore it. Unless they’re hurting themselves, hurting someone else, or damaging property, then I would gently physically restrain them to keep themselves and others safe. . When you’re in the middle of a tantrum, I would ignore the tantrum in a very specific way. You want to make sure that you’re nearby, and you look like you’re just filing your nails waiting. Do not go on a phone. I thi